Are your goals materialistic in nature? Are they expectations placed on you by family or society, or do they come from your heart? Will they make you happy? Are they attainable?
When I was fresh out of high school my goals were prescribed to me by society and family expectations. My goals were to go to college (picking a realistic major), have a good business job that afforded me a comfortable living, and to start my own family.
As I look back now, how shallow that all sounds. I was completely neglecting the aspects of myself that made my heart sing. I was neglecting my creative, loving, kind, sensitive side completely. I was making my family happy, but where was I in all of this?
As I have walked this new spiritual path I have realized that my goals have completely changed. They are no longer material in nature, but soul satisfying. I don’t really care anymore what society or my family want for me. My goals are now based on healing my shadows, living a life that balances my internal peace with my external freedom of expression and love. My goal is to be in the flow, and to use my intuition to guide me and show me where there is work to do.
I have discovered that caring about fitting in with the masses is like chasing your tail. There’s always something else to want or to be, and you don’t really have a say. I happen to like pumpkin spiced lattes and romantic comedies even though they make me “basic” according to the folks on social media.
So I challenge you to take a look at what you’re striving to become or be. Is it what makes your heart sing or is it an idea that someone else has decided is right for you? Embrace your authenticity and make your goals something that will grow you as a person.