Piggy backing on my last post, I want to talk about healthy boundaries. The concept of personal boundaries is very important for healthy relationships. We have to be careful when we have unhealed wounds and try to set boundaries as we can place boundaries up around ourselves that are unhealthy and toxic. They can come from a place of trying to control someone else’s behavior towards you, because of your own fears and insecurities.
For example, If I am in a relationship with someone and I know that I am triggered by the topic of money, so I place a boundary up, that I will just not discuss this topic with my partner. This is a toxic boundary. You are putting it in place because you are triggered by it. It is put up to avoid your feelings. Instead of doing the hard work of really trying to understand what is behind that issue, healing the underlying cause for that trigger, and allowing yourself and your partner to be heard and understood, you remove that trigger being presented to you.
This will not solve the underlying issue, and you will find yourself faced with more and more topics/things that are off the table until there is nothing left to discuss. Healthy relationships thrive on communication and a good understanding of yourself. If there are emotions stirred around certain topics, it’s important to discover why. What are you telling yourself in that moment, that isn’t actually true. What negative self talk is going on when that topic comes up?
Take a look at the boundaries that you have in your relationships. Are they based in self love, protection, and a good understanding of your needs, or are you trying to control and avoid?
This morning during meditation I was given some guidance that I felt it was important to share.
Spirt showed me a heart glowing in a glass case. The only way to get to this heart was a key, which I wore on a chain around my neck.
It’s okay to offer and show my love to the world in my actions and words, but I don’t have to offer everyone the key to my heart.
In order to do this you have to have healthy boundaries.
I have people in my life who have shut their heart away because that is what safe. If nothing can pernitrate their heart then it won’t hurt again. I have done this too. I grew up believing that love always hurt, and that I had to earn it. I learned that from people that had poor boundaries that I loved. I wasn’t taught how to protect myself, so I allowed everything, and thought that it was what I deserved.
Then, something amazing happened. I learned to meditate. I learned to tap into my higher guidance system, and I asked for help to remove the blockages and bring me clarity. I asked to be shown what I needed to heal, and what self limiting beliefs were keeping me stuck. You can do this too! You must! Love is the highest vibration there is, and that is what the human race needs. More love!!!
Instead of hiding your love away, do the work to set the healthy boundaries with the people you feel connected to. Express your love to the world! Do this through your words, actions!
Nothing can dim the light that shines from within ~ Maya Angelou
Wipe the slate clean everyday to achieve the highest vibration. Meditation is the key. Check your energy, your body, and determine what is being held onto and where you are meeting any kind of resistance. Everyday be committed to this process of cleansing and clearing your energy field. The results will be freeing. You will have more energy in your physical body as well as your light body.
Valuable clarity and insight will come as a result. Chaos is created in your mind, but you will be able to quiet this chaos by cleansing and clearing the feelings and emotions that are stuck. State what you are feeling aloud, or write about it in your journal. By getting it outside yourself into the 3D realty, you will start the process of moving this stuck energy. You will send it out to be released.
If you hold it inside it will just be picked up by your mind and feed your self limiting beliefs. It will hold you hostage in logic and fear. Get it out in whatever healthy way you can. Self expression is the best way to get it moving and purge it from your system.
You see, your body and your soul must work together. It doesn’t work if one takes control and bypasses the other. They have to work together.
Your soul will tell you how to fix what is trapped in your body, if only you would listen before there is too much damage inflicted upon it. Your physical form has a shelf life. Your soul is infinite.
This is a channeled message from one of my spirit guides.
“You are a divine being of light and love. As such you will always have a connection with spirit. Sometimes you will feel this stronger than other times.
You must watch your vibes and make sure that you are protecting your connection by staying grounded. Do something physical, mindful, or spiritual to tap into the energy of love and light.
You are a receiver and a transmitter of energy. If you are not tapped into the divine source energy, following your intuition then you are transmitting energy from your ego/logical mind. Full of fears and lower energies.
Be very mindful of what you consume, both physically and mentally, for it all has an impact on your vibration. And, because we are one, of the collective vibration By taking care of yourself, you create a healthier consciousness for all.”