Author: Gretchen Mickelson

Stop Being Hard on Yourself When Someone Doesn’t Listen to Your Advice.

I was reminded again this morning that even though you are able to see the bigger picture of a situation, not everyone is, especially those that are deeply entrenched in it. Even though you may have already discovered the lesson in the book they are reading they might not be at the part of the book to understand what’s going on. Or, they might be reading multiple books and need to get to a certain chapter in a different book to understand what’s going on in this one. They have to live through the chapters to understand the lesson. That’s what life is all about. They won’t understand until they are ready to.

The purpose of telling you this is because I want to give you support if you see a family member or friend going through something really hard, and the answers are clear to you, but they just can’t see it, or act upon it to better their situation. Ask any parent if you need examples.

Be patient with them and with yourself. Our journeys are unique. They may have lots of similarities, but we are not here to put everyone in a box. When we can accept our own experience, and meet ourselves where we are at, to express ourselves authentically… then we can hold that space for the people we love to accept themselves and their experiences. To learn the lessons and grow in their own time.

This is a big lesson for me and I am working to embrace this more. I like to think I have lots of wisdom that I have learned in my 47 years, and I would love to help my family and friends to benefit from the things I have discovered. When my friends or family ask my advice and then don’t accept my guidance, or even hear my advice because of the emotions of the situation, I start telling myself that I must not have conveyed the message clearly or they don’t care. Really, it’s because they aren’t there yet. Eventually, they will get there, and when they do we can have a party, but it’s important to accept where they are.

It’s also a lesson for me to work on that negative self talk in my brain that says I failed them in some way. You cannot help someone that isn’t ready to be helped. If they are not in resonance with the advice, it will not sink in. Be consistent, and eventually they will hear it and realize it’s just what they needed and like me, wonder what why it didn’t click sooner.

It’s a journey friends, we are all on a different one. Embrace it! Enjoy it!

And stop being hard on yourself when someone doesn’t listen to your advice!

Lesson of the Slippery Socks

Today I had to bring my cat to the vet to be spayed. I work from home and was having to take a bit of time from my very busy day to do this. I started the day with just my slippers, and since it was -7 degrees this morning, I needed to put some socks on and wear my winter boots for this chore.

I was already running late as a client call went over the allotted time, and I rushed into my room to grab the socks. I chose a pair of white socks that are made of soft material. Nothing crazy, I have worn them several times with no issue. Something was nudging me to pick a different pair. I shrugged it off and kept moving as there was no time to waste. The cat was already in her carrier, I had already used the remote start to warm up the car so we weren’t going to freeze, and I just needed to get my butt out the door.

I put my jacket on and grabbed my purse and the cat, and started down the stairs in my stocking feet. The next thing I knew I was on my butt halfway down the staircase. When I calmed down I realized the cat was alright, I was indeed okay. Yes, a little worse for the wear, and my back will probably hurt for a few days as I could feel the strain in my muscles already, but truth-be-told it scared me more than it hurt me.

As I told the story to my sisters and a friend via text, the socks were the issue, as well as my mind moving 100mph before I descended the staircase. At lunch time I meditate, everyday. Today again, the socks came up, but this time I let the answer come to me through my heart space.

That nudge was my guardian angel trying to divert disaster and keep me safe. I just shrugged it off because I was too busy to take the time to acknowledge the divine suggestion. I thought I was good at seeing these things… Wow, how often do I do this?

I have begun to realize, for me it’s not that I don’t see them, it’s that I need to think about them before I listen. If there is not time to properly analyze the advice, then it’s 50/50. Sometimes I listen and sometimes I just shrug it off. It’s a trust thing for me. I always worry that there’s some dark energy or trickster around that has hijacked my conscious and is giving me bad information. I haven’t quite gotten to that space within where I can sense that energy, because, I just assume that I cannot trust myself to know the difference between good and bad energy.

The truth is I can, but it takes away my control, and that keeps me safe, or does it?

Just some food for thought…and a lesson to listen and trust those nudges. You could save yourself a few days with a heating pad and Tylenol. You’re also learning to trust that the universe really does have your best interest at heart, or at least your angels do.

The Truth Will Set You Free

This was a channeled message from 10-12-2022. My guides asked me to share it with you today. Exactly as I channeled it originally.

“Go gallantly into the darkness of your soul and bring the sword of truth as your protection. Truth will truly set you free. Truth is always found in your heart and soul. Your ego mind holds logic, but imagine that the library of logic has some bad book with bad logic and information in it. You’ve been using these books all your life, how could they be wrong? But, my child they are, for our ego throws out old books when new information is received like they do with science and new technology. The ego librarian doesn’t use science, he uses emotions, feelings, blockages to create the library you are getting your books from.

You see your soul doesn’t have a librarian, there is no need to “update” the collection because the books will never change. Your soul is your only true source of wisdom and knowledge about yourself. Your soul is hundreds of thousands of years old and a part of the Christ Consciousness. There is no fear that resides there only love. Open your heart and download the truth of who you are from this energetic library of self. Start getting rid out the books that don’t line up to your soul. “

In the Flow

Saturday was a great day. I could tell from the moment that I got up that I was right where I needed to be. My mind was clear and my energy was good, I even had tea instead of coffee first thing.

I didn’t have elaborate plans for the day, but decided to take things as they came following the little suggestions from spirit. I did a bit of house work, read another chapter in my new book, meditated, and journaled a bit. I invited my sister to go shopping and have lunch to use a gift card I had been given for Christmas from my aunt since she also had one too. She didn’t get back to me until lunch was upon us, but we decided to meet up later in the afternoon.

On my way to meet my sister I saw a license plate that had the numbers 222. That’s my number for the right place right time, or being in the flow. When I got to the store that the gift card was from, I waited in my car until she showed up, and I was so excited that she didn’t have my niece with her. Not that I don’t love spending time with my niece, but it meant that we could really just enjoy each other’s company and shop!

I found a great candle to spend my gift card on that just happened to be some of my favorite scents. Lavender, Bergamot, and Oak. I have never seen that combination before. When we went to the register to pay, my sister was a part of their email listing and got an additional discount! She had gone over the amount of the gift card, but this meant that she only had to pay 2 dollars extra. Score!

We decided to go the the shoe store that was next door. They were moving locations because of a lease war on their space, but all their clearance shoes were an additional 30% off. I found a great pair of Clarks boots to replace my old ones. They were a deal at $40.00, that’s more than half price, and I even got a pair of slides for my brother that lives with me. As I was standing in line, a new cashier came up and ushered me over to her. I could tell she had great energy, and we seemed to click. My brother’s shoes were on a sale rack, but turned out not to be on sale. The cashier said, “Don’t worry I will hook you up”, and voila I got them for 14.99, when they were originally $34.99. God put me in the right place at the right time, with the right cashier.

Things seem to just work out when you are in the flow, following your intuition, and bringing your authentic energy to people and places that need it.

That wasn’t the last of the deals for the day though. We decided to keep going, and visit some of our favorite clothing shops. I found a jacket that I loved and when I went to check out, I had a bonus waiting for me, another $20.00 off. I couldn’t believe my luck.

I just wanted to share with you this story, because it shows that when you follow your intuition and things are in alignment, things just work out. There will be help on your path, rewards, and messages. Not to mention that you can help other people as well. Who knows, my interaction with the cashier, and the fact that I was so grateful to her for giving me such a deep discount when she didn’t have to lifted her spirits too. It was a good interaction. In fact, all the interactions I had on Saturday were good ones. I even heard from someone that I haven’t talked to in a while.

Sometimes you just wake up in the flow, and other days it’s harder to get there, but generally, I have discovered that when you follow the gentle little nudges from God, good things happen. When you get that little nudge to hold a door open, to invite someone to coffee, or wear that shirt that you’ve been saving for the right moment, do it. I promise the results my be just what you’re looking for, but definitely what you need.

Your Life’s Purpose

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I began reading a book last night by Sonia Choquette called Ask Your Guides. In the first chapter of this book she says that in order to have a relationship with your spirit guides you must recognize your own spirit and get to know it.

She asks you to describe your spirit, identify what feeds it, what does it need, and what is its name. These things are so important because they help you understand your purpose in life.

Then, this morning I was scrolling through YouTube drinking my tea and this video popped up to confirm what I read. We are all unique, the things that we are energized by give us clues to our purpose. When we are energized by something our vibration rises. This not only helps us, but it helps the collective conscious to raise its vibration.

The world needs more people doing what they love. This is why it’s so important to listen to your spirit/soul/God or whatever you identify it to be. Not only will it make you happy, but it will help everyone around you.

Disclaimer…I’m not saying you should avoid you responsibilities. I’m saying take more time to do what really energizes you.

Something that energizes me is learning new things, teaching others, puzzles, art, music, dancing(even though I can’t do it well), baking, having deep conversations with interesting people, exploring, finding treasures at flea markets and thrift stores, and lots more.

What excites you?

UPDATE: I went to share this post on Facebook and this was the first thing I saw when I logged in…

Serendipity – Hug from an Angel

Today I am going through some tough emotional things. I put on some frequency music while I was working. You can find it on youtube. This one was called Hug from an Angel. I have linked the song below, if you interested in a hug from an angel too. Something told me to look down as I was sitting there and what do I see? A feather.

I know what you’re thinking, but I don’t have birds. I do have feather pillows, but they have those zip on pillow protectors. Of course the tears streamed down my face at that point. We are never alone, and that is such a comfort to me, and today I need it.

https://www.youtube.com/live/lRxE4Qw33bA?feature=share

I would love to hear your stories of synchronicities that you have experienced in your lives. Feel free to leave them in the comments or message me directly.

Peace or Apathy

The holidays used to be a very busy time for me. I won’t go into the details here, because it’s a long story, but my life 10 years ago was full of traditions and people to spend my holidays with. Indeed life in general was full of distractions and tasks to get done. Little people to keep alive and happy, a husband, a household, and a job.

There was not a lot of me time to be had, but in the last 10 years people and things have slowly been leaving my life. At first this was anxiety inducing. I defined myself by all these things and my title as mother, wife, daughter, etc. When they slowly started fading away, I didn’t know who I was, and this was really hard for me.

I tried to fill up the space with social media, dating, projects etc. I felt bored, and alone. Nothing seemed to fulfill me.

Then, I started this spiritual journey, and began to discover the truth. Things and people were being removed from my life so that I could discover myself. I had prayed to discover a deep understanding of who I was, and I realize now that God gave me the tools and the space to do that. I am so very grateful.

I know that I still have a lot more to learn about myself, but I also know that I have the power to manifest what I truly desire. I wanted to know myself, and I am getting there. It took me a while to understand exactly what was happening and why, but now that I do, I am so grateful. The inner peace that I feel is amazing. I am even almost completely off the anxiety meds that I have been on for 20 years.

Some days I mistake this peace with apathy. It takes awhile for your subconscious to get on board, but I am being patient with it these days.

Just remember, when you ask God/Universe for big changes in your life, and then world as you know if starts to crumble, that the old will need to be removed for the new to have space. God will take the straightest route. Your intuition will be your GPS.

Let it Be vs Let it Go

Let it be = Acceptance

Let it go = Choice

How can two letters change the way I view things so much?

When someone tells you to let something go, it requires a choice. It also infers that you are holding onto something that isn’t for you. There’s fault in this statement. I have seen value in something that doesn’t have value and for someone that has unhealed traumas might trigger guilt and shame.

When someone tells you to let something be, it requires a whole new process. It’s not really a choice, but an evaluation of what it is to you, and how it fits into to your life. It’s acceptance of what is, and if it’s in alignment with you. By accepting what it is, you remove the control and allow yourself and whatever it is to be what it is. This removes the shame and guilt, for the need to find fault in it.

This also allows you to be in acceptance of yourself. Here’s where I am, I might be somewhere different tomorrow, but this is who I am right now, and that is okay. We all grow and change our whole lives, and what we are in vibration with today, might not be what aligns tomorrow. If we accept and let it be what it is and your relationship to it, then there is room for growth.

I have to admit it was hard for communicate this in words as I felt it so strongly in my heart during my meditation this morning. I hope I did it justice.

Mirroring

I have read so many articles and books in the past 3 years about people mirroring each other, but the truth is that your external life mirrors how you feel internally.

I was just journaling as I normally do at the end of my day, and I stumbled upon something very interesting. I was rambling on in my journal about feeling alone, and not having a “family” of my own to build traditions and a life. Of course, this time of year brings these issues to light for a lot of us.

Don’t get me wrong I have lovely friends and extended family that I enjoy so much, but I’m not married and I have a challenging relationship with my children. It leaves me on my own a lot especially during traditional family times.

I don’t need to wait until those things come into my life. I know they will when the time is right. I don’t have to see this alone time as a bad thing and I certainly don’t need to wait to start making plans for my life.

What I’m desiring externally is what I ‘m really craving from myself. I can give myself love, support, and a plan for the future. Things that a relationship and family of my own will fit into.

When all you really want at the end of the day is someone who loves you unconditionally, doesn’t judge you for your mistakes, and allows you to be authentically yourself; you can be that person for yourself. Be your own biggest cheerleader.