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Stop Hoping and Start Trusting

In meditation yesterday I was guided to stop hoping and start trusting. This lead me to really start thinking of the two words/concepts. In Merriam Webster’s dictionary hope and trust are synonyms of each other and are often used interchangeably. So, what is the difference? Here is what I discovered:

First for me there is a difference in the energy of the two words.

Let’s look at hope first. There is an expectation that something will happen, or a wish for it to be. For me there is an uncertainty with hope though. Doubt has somehow crept into it. This was a sad realization for me. In my daily life I often rely on hope that things will get better or that I will get a good parking spot at the grocery store. It seems like wishful thinking…almost.

Don’t get me wrong I still feel like there’s a place for hope. You must always have hope in your heart for the things you desire. There is a light hearted and playful nature to hope that trust doesn’t have, and I believe that is important too.

For the big things like believing in yourself, manifesting, and choosing the right path for your life, that should be the job of trust.

Trust implies there is a force or person responsible. There is no doubt involved with trust. It is proven and experienced. An example is that I know that my sister will take good care of my babies, like there were her own. I trust her.

When I got the message yesterday that I needed to stop hoping and start trusting. I realized that I wasn’t trusting myself, or God. I was hoping that things would work out for me. I was putting out expectations, but not really trusting that they would be fulfilled. There has been an element of doubt all along.

Trust has always been a hard thing for me from a very early age. Many of us have come from broken homes and bad situations that have broken our trust. It requires a leap of faith, sometimes quite literally. Trusting yourself would be the best place to start. After that consider trusting the source of all things. I call him God, but he goes by many names. That is where I have decided to start!

Thank you for coming along on this journey with me.

-Gretchen

The Fear of Missing Out

I had to make a difficult decision this weekend. I had a trip planned with my sister to visit my other sister that I have not seen in a year. She lives 10 hours away and we usually drive there together. It’s so much fun, and much needed time with my sisters.

Unfortunately, one of my dogs had an emergency vet visit last week that cost me quite a bit. In the past, I would just take the hit on my credit card for the vet visit and boarding the dogs over the weekend, and still go on the trip. This time I did the more responsible thing; I stayed home.

I felt good about not overcommitting my resources and my sisters understood even if they were disappointed. However, I woke up today, knowing my sisters are sharing the day together without me, and I got stuck in my disappointment.

Then something happened. I was laying down for a nap this afternoon, since I did still have the day off, when I realized, I am meant to have the experiences that I am meant to have. The only person that is going to look out for me, is me. Even if it was so disappointing not being there… Comparing myself to other people, and basing my value on what I see other people have or what they are doing, is not doing me any favors.

It’s okay to say No, to not give more than you can emotionally or materially. It’s okay to appreciate the things in your life that you do have. You might not get to go on that vacation, but maybe the universe has something more important planned for you.

Finding joy and gratitude for what you do have, instead of worrying about what you are missing, would be a far better use of the time, than being sad and sulking over the missed opportunity.

Identify Your Patterns

One of the Universal Laws is that cycles are a natural part of the universe.

Cycles can be seen outwardly, like in nature, but we can also see them in our own lives. We have them in relationships, in work, and in our behaviors.

Yesterday before bed I was getting a nudge from my intuition to read a journal entry from the same day 2 years ago. I was surprised by what I read and a little sad.

In this entry from a couple of years ago I was writing about a situation that I am going through right now with the same people! I’ve been working through some really hard things these last few months, and having some really tough realizations about my behavior patterns.

The most interesting thing about this is that I was getting the same advice from my intuition. I think the reason I was guided to this entry was to show me, this is a pattern and it’s time to change it. What I chose the last time, brought me right back to the same place. It’s time to break that cycle, learn the lesson, start a new way of living, and a heathy behavior pattern.

Do you find yourself repeating old patterns in relationships, at work, or in your behaviors? You will probably continue to live out these cycles again and again until you take the time to dig in there and do the healing work. If you want something different, you have to do something different.

Personal Boundaries

Piggy backing on my last post, I want to talk about healthy boundaries. The concept of personal boundaries is very important for healthy relationships. We have to be careful when we have unhealed wounds and try to set boundaries as we can place boundaries up around ourselves that are unhealthy and toxic. They can come from a place of trying to control someone else’s behavior towards you, because of your own fears and insecurities.

For example, If I am in a relationship with someone and I know that I am triggered by the topic of money, so I place a boundary up, that I will just not discuss this topic with my partner. This is a toxic boundary. You are putting it in place because you are triggered by it. It is put up to avoid your feelings. Instead of doing the hard work of really trying to understand what is behind that issue, healing the underlying cause for that trigger, and allowing yourself and your partner to be heard and understood, you remove that trigger being presented to you.

This will not solve the underlying issue, and you will find yourself faced with more and more topics/things that are off the table until there is nothing left to discuss. Healthy relationships thrive on communication and a good understanding of yourself. If there are emotions stirred around certain topics, it’s important to discover why. What are you telling yourself in that moment, that isn’t actually true. What negative self talk is going on when that topic comes up?

Take a look at the boundaries that you have in your relationships. Are they based in self love, protection, and a good understanding of your needs, or are you trying to control and avoid?

Spirit’s Guidance

Nothing can dim the light that shines from within ~ Maya Angelou

Wipe the slate clean everyday to achieve the highest vibration. Meditation is the key. Check your energy, your body, and determine what is being held onto and where you are meeting any kind of resistance. Everyday be committed to this process of cleansing and clearing your energy field. The results will be freeing. You will have more energy in your physical body as well as your light body.

Valuable clarity and insight will come as a result. Chaos is created in your mind, but you will be able to quiet this chaos by cleansing and clearing the feelings and emotions that are stuck. State what you are feeling aloud, or write about it in your journal. By getting it outside yourself into the 3D realty, you will start the process of moving this stuck energy. You will send it out to be released.

If you hold it inside it will just be picked up by your mind and feed your self limiting beliefs. It will hold you hostage in logic and fear. Get it out in whatever healthy way you can. Self expression is the best way to get it moving and purge it from your system.

You see, your body and your soul must work together. It doesn’t work if one takes control and bypasses the other. They have to work together.

Your soul will tell you how to fix what is trapped in your body, if only you would listen before there is too much damage inflicted upon it. Your physical form has a shelf life. Your soul is infinite.

Guidance from Spirit

This is a channeled message from one of my spirit guides.

“You are a divine being of light and love. As such you will always have a connection with spirit. Sometimes you will feel this stronger than other times.

You must watch your vibes and make sure that you are protecting your connection by staying grounded. Do something physical, mindful, or spiritual to tap into the energy of love and light.

You are a receiver and a transmitter of energy. If you are not tapped into the divine source energy, following your intuition then you are transmitting energy from your ego/logical mind. Full of fears and lower energies.

Be very mindful of what you consume, both physically and mentally, for it all has an impact on your vibration. And, because we are one, of the collective vibration By taking care of yourself, you create a healthier consciousness for all.”

Re-Evaluate your Goals

Channeled Message –

If we really think about it, most of us know what we are really capable of. When we put our mind and our hearts into something we can move mountains. Our potential lies in front of us like a map, but what are we telling ourselves when life gets in the way? If we have hardened our hearts from past failures or lessons then we see our failure to live up to our potential not as a lesson, but shame and guilt that we must bare. Instead of a map it becomes a list of things we compare ourselves to. Then the self talk begins. I could be doing so much more with my life, yet here I sit sad and unfulfilled.

It is important that we re-evaluate if what we once saw as our potential life would still make us happy? There is no sense comparing ourselves to a potential life that we no longer want.

As I was copying this message from my notes, I received another, that was meant from someone specifically seeing this and asked to include it.

“Dear one, please choose hope and love over all. Stop limiting yourself to an outcome that you now know could be so much more. You were once living in your ego, but have come to the light. Of course your life will change, of course what you used to want will no longer make sense. Please stop limiting yourself based on what you thought your life would be. For, you truly are a different person now. More centered and connected to your soul than you have ever been. Choose a life in alignment with that.”

I hope this message reaches whomever it was intended to.

Also, I have decided to offer personalized channeled messages on my etsy shop. You can find the link below my picture. They are written messages, from your guides with specific message for you, like the one above. The prices vary from $25-$100, depending on length. If you’re interested I would love to see you over there.

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Being the Miracle for Someone Else

Over the weekend I had a chance to hang out with my niece. I decided to take her to dinner and to play some games at Dave and Busters. We had so much fun! At dinner she got a really cool hypercolor straw that changed colors based on temperature. Which she thought was the coolest. Then I splurged and got the big card with a lot of coins on it, so we could play for a while together.

We were having a blast, until we came upon the big claw machine. She tried and tried to get a stuffed animal as big as her, but to no avail. So we took a break and played other games for a while. Then we went back to the claw machine. There was a line, and people were taking turns. Everything was going great, until my nieces turn. She dislodged the stuffy she wanted, and it would have only taken one more try and that stuffy would have been hers, but the next little girl was waiting. I know that my niece was going to be heartbroken, but everyone was taking turns so nicely. And, I could tell by looking at this little girl that she probably didn’t have these kinds of opportunities that often.

My niece is quite fortunate to be an only child of very loving and fun parents, not to mention some cool aunts and uncles. She has had so many fun experiences and has a room full of stuffies at home. She handled it like a champ even though I could tell how disappointed she was to hand the controls over to this little girl, she did it graciously but with a look of disappointment I knew that we would have to talk about.

That little girl won the prize and got that big stuffy, and showed no kindness to my niece even though it was she who set up that little miracle for her and handed over the controls. It broke my heart to watch that interaction, but it was then that I realized, sometimes you are the miracle for another person. You set someone up for a win, and there is a prize in that too.

In fact we walked over to the small crane machines close by and she won a small stuffed dog that she promptly named golden for it’s color. I paid for a little girl that had no money to play the claw next to us, and the boy on the other side won 3 stuffies at once and handed one to my niece and the little girl I had just paid for. He was so sweet, and my heart was happy.

My niece would end up coming home with a bag full of fun prizes including a stuffed sloth that was 1/2 her size, and some other fun things. She, by no means left empty handed. We had a great night, and we contributed to making that little girls experience one that she won’t forget for a while.

It’s important to look at the bigger picture. Which is sometimes hard to do in the moment, but if we can, we can affect others around us, and at the same time feed our soul by spreading love. Plus, when we do God’s work, we will be rewarded. Generosity and kindness will find you, if that is what you are putting out. So, I encourage you to be kind and generous, and teach your children to do the same. Be that miracle for someone else, no matter how small.

Message from Spirt and Energy Checkin

Today I was guided to post a Channeled message on Youtube as well as an energy check in with tarot. I have lots going on today in my home. People in an out, so this seemed to be the best option. Please Enjoy!