Universal Wisdom – Feeling “Stuck” in Relationships

A Channeled Message from my spirit guide, called Teefa. He’s with me to impart universal wisdom.

Timing is important for all things. As the universe works with you to impact the lives of other people. There will always be delays and lessons along your path that keep you “stuck” for moments. These will be times of inaction, reflection, or sometimes they will feel like waiting, boredom and stagnation.

This allows the universe to align what is meant for you. It’s all orchestrated to perfection and there are so many variables it’s mind blowing for your logical minds. However, it’s a daily occurrence for the divine source. That is why willingness to believe and trust in the divine and go with the flow is so important.

Divine timing can feel restrictive and frustrating, but it has its purpose and we must understand this, and surrender to it completely. If the answers or movement is not coming for you, then perhaps you are trying to control an outcome. The more you try, the more miserable you will become. You must realize that the only one that can move the situation is the divine.

Spirit’s Guidance

Nothing can dim the light that shines from within ~ Maya Angelou

Wipe the slate clean everyday to achieve the highest vibration. Meditation is the key. Check your energy, your body, and determine what is being held onto and where you are meeting any kind of resistance. Everyday be committed to this process of cleansing and clearing your energy field. The results will be freeing. You will have more energy in your physical body as well as your light body.

Valuable clarity and insight will come as a result. Chaos is created in your mind, but you will be able to quiet this chaos by cleansing and clearing the feelings and emotions that are stuck. State what you are feeling aloud, or write about it in your journal. By getting it outside yourself into the 3D realty, you will start the process of moving this stuck energy. You will send it out to be released.

If you hold it inside it will just be picked up by your mind and feed your self limiting beliefs. It will hold you hostage in logic and fear. Get it out in whatever healthy way you can. Self expression is the best way to get it moving and purge it from your system.

You see, your body and your soul must work together. It doesn’t work if one takes control and bypasses the other. They have to work together.

Your soul will tell you how to fix what is trapped in your body, if only you would listen before there is too much damage inflicted upon it. Your physical form has a shelf life. Your soul is infinite.

Lesson of the Slippery Socks

Today I had to bring my cat to the vet to be spayed. I work from home and was having to take a bit of time from my very busy day to do this. I started the day with just my slippers, and since it was -7 degrees this morning, I needed to put some socks on and wear my winter boots for this chore.

I was already running late as a client call went over the allotted time, and I rushed into my room to grab the socks. I chose a pair of white socks that are made of soft material. Nothing crazy, I have worn them several times with no issue. Something was nudging me to pick a different pair. I shrugged it off and kept moving as there was no time to waste. The cat was already in her carrier, I had already used the remote start to warm up the car so we weren’t going to freeze, and I just needed to get my butt out the door.

I put my jacket on and grabbed my purse and the cat, and started down the stairs in my stocking feet. The next thing I knew I was on my butt halfway down the staircase. When I calmed down I realized the cat was alright, I was indeed okay. Yes, a little worse for the wear, and my back will probably hurt for a few days as I could feel the strain in my muscles already, but truth-be-told it scared me more than it hurt me.

As I told the story to my sisters and a friend via text, the socks were the issue, as well as my mind moving 100mph before I descended the staircase. At lunch time I meditate, everyday. Today again, the socks came up, but this time I let the answer come to me through my heart space.

That nudge was my guardian angel trying to divert disaster and keep me safe. I just shrugged it off because I was too busy to take the time to acknowledge the divine suggestion. I thought I was good at seeing these things… Wow, how often do I do this?

I have begun to realize, for me it’s not that I don’t see them, it’s that I need to think about them before I listen. If there is not time to properly analyze the advice, then it’s 50/50. Sometimes I listen and sometimes I just shrug it off. It’s a trust thing for me. I always worry that there’s some dark energy or trickster around that has hijacked my conscious and is giving me bad information. I haven’t quite gotten to that space within where I can sense that energy, because, I just assume that I cannot trust myself to know the difference between good and bad energy.

The truth is I can, but it takes away my control, and that keeps me safe, or does it?

Just some food for thought…and a lesson to listen and trust those nudges. You could save yourself a few days with a heating pad and Tylenol. You’re also learning to trust that the universe really does have your best interest at heart, or at least your angels do.

In the Flow

Saturday was a great day. I could tell from the moment that I got up that I was right where I needed to be. My mind was clear and my energy was good, I even had tea instead of coffee first thing.

I didn’t have elaborate plans for the day, but decided to take things as they came following the little suggestions from spirit. I did a bit of house work, read another chapter in my new book, meditated, and journaled a bit. I invited my sister to go shopping and have lunch to use a gift card I had been given for Christmas from my aunt since she also had one too. She didn’t get back to me until lunch was upon us, but we decided to meet up later in the afternoon.

On my way to meet my sister I saw a license plate that had the numbers 222. That’s my number for the right place right time, or being in the flow. When I got to the store that the gift card was from, I waited in my car until she showed up, and I was so excited that she didn’t have my niece with her. Not that I don’t love spending time with my niece, but it meant that we could really just enjoy each other’s company and shop!

I found a great candle to spend my gift card on that just happened to be some of my favorite scents. Lavender, Bergamot, and Oak. I have never seen that combination before. When we went to the register to pay, my sister was a part of their email listing and got an additional discount! She had gone over the amount of the gift card, but this meant that she only had to pay 2 dollars extra. Score!

We decided to go the the shoe store that was next door. They were moving locations because of a lease war on their space, but all their clearance shoes were an additional 30% off. I found a great pair of Clarks boots to replace my old ones. They were a deal at $40.00, that’s more than half price, and I even got a pair of slides for my brother that lives with me. As I was standing in line, a new cashier came up and ushered me over to her. I could tell she had great energy, and we seemed to click. My brother’s shoes were on a sale rack, but turned out not to be on sale. The cashier said, “Don’t worry I will hook you up”, and voila I got them for 14.99, when they were originally $34.99. God put me in the right place at the right time, with the right cashier.

Things seem to just work out when you are in the flow, following your intuition, and bringing your authentic energy to people and places that need it.

That wasn’t the last of the deals for the day though. We decided to keep going, and visit some of our favorite clothing shops. I found a jacket that I loved and when I went to check out, I had a bonus waiting for me, another $20.00 off. I couldn’t believe my luck.

I just wanted to share with you this story, because it shows that when you follow your intuition and things are in alignment, things just work out. There will be help on your path, rewards, and messages. Not to mention that you can help other people as well. Who knows, my interaction with the cashier, and the fact that I was so grateful to her for giving me such a deep discount when she didn’t have to lifted her spirits too. It was a good interaction. In fact, all the interactions I had on Saturday were good ones. I even heard from someone that I haven’t talked to in a while.

Sometimes you just wake up in the flow, and other days it’s harder to get there, but generally, I have discovered that when you follow the gentle little nudges from God, good things happen. When you get that little nudge to hold a door open, to invite someone to coffee, or wear that shirt that you’ve been saving for the right moment, do it. I promise the results my be just what you’re looking for, but definitely what you need.

Peace or Apathy

The holidays used to be a very busy time for me. I won’t go into the details here, because it’s a long story, but my life 10 years ago was full of traditions and people to spend my holidays with. Indeed life in general was full of distractions and tasks to get done. Little people to keep alive and happy, a husband, a household, and a job.

There was not a lot of me time to be had, but in the last 10 years people and things have slowly been leaving my life. At first this was anxiety inducing. I defined myself by all these things and my title as mother, wife, daughter, etc. When they slowly started fading away, I didn’t know who I was, and this was really hard for me.

I tried to fill up the space with social media, dating, projects etc. I felt bored, and alone. Nothing seemed to fulfill me.

Then, I started this spiritual journey, and began to discover the truth. Things and people were being removed from my life so that I could discover myself. I had prayed to discover a deep understanding of who I was, and I realize now that God gave me the tools and the space to do that. I am so very grateful.

I know that I still have a lot more to learn about myself, but I also know that I have the power to manifest what I truly desire. I wanted to know myself, and I am getting there. It took me a while to understand exactly what was happening and why, but now that I do, I am so grateful. The inner peace that I feel is amazing. I am even almost completely off the anxiety meds that I have been on for 20 years.

Some days I mistake this peace with apathy. It takes awhile for your subconscious to get on board, but I am being patient with it these days.

Just remember, when you ask God/Universe for big changes in your life, and then world as you know if starts to crumble, that the old will need to be removed for the new to have space. God will take the straightest route. Your intuition will be your GPS.

Let it Be vs Let it Go

Let it be = Acceptance

Let it go = Choice

How can two letters change the way I view things so much?

When someone tells you to let something go, it requires a choice. It also infers that you are holding onto something that isn’t for you. There’s fault in this statement. I have seen value in something that doesn’t have value and for someone that has unhealed traumas might trigger guilt and shame.

When someone tells you to let something be, it requires a whole new process. It’s not really a choice, but an evaluation of what it is to you, and how it fits into to your life. It’s acceptance of what is, and if it’s in alignment with you. By accepting what it is, you remove the control and allow yourself and whatever it is to be what it is. This removes the shame and guilt, for the need to find fault in it.

This also allows you to be in acceptance of yourself. Here’s where I am, I might be somewhere different tomorrow, but this is who I am right now, and that is okay. We all grow and change our whole lives, and what we are in vibration with today, might not be what aligns tomorrow. If we accept and let it be what it is and your relationship to it, then there is room for growth.

I have to admit it was hard for communicate this in words as I felt it so strongly in my heart during my meditation this morning. I hope I did it justice.

Love Yourself

There is a golden rule in Christianity that says “Do unto others that you’d have done to you,” but society has focused on others, and forgotten the part where we must also show ourselves love.

We focus so much on being kind to others and treating them with respect, even if we aren’t treating ourselves that way.

We have to give ourselves the love and kindness we give others. If we aren’t giving it to ourselves first, others won’t either. Like attracts like, it’s one of the universal laws. We show people how to treat us, how to love us.

When there isn’t a balance between loving ourself and others codependency results. I need to prove my love and kindness to others and forsake myself so that I get love and kindness in return.

Instead I would challenge you to give yourself love and kindness first, because then you are practicing the golden rule as it was intended. I love myself therefore I treat others with love and respect.

What are 3 ways you can show yourself love today?

Believe

In meditation today I asked my guides what message was most import to deliver on my blog today and I was handed a list.

  • Believe in yourself
  • Do everything with intention
  • Love your life
  • Enjoy the journey

Easy right? Is it though? No for most of us. If you are anything like me, you find moments where this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Let’s unpack this to do list shall we.

What does is mean to believe in yourself? It means you have to stop listening to that voice in your head that lists all the reasons why you can’t have what you want (that second piece of chocolate), why you’ve failed every other time (so why even try again), and why you aren’t worthy of the dreams and goals you have for yourself. This will take more than a moment to get control of, but the first step is recognizing the voice. The second is to recognize you are observing the voice say those things, therefore, you are not this voice. You are an observer, this observer is your soul. The true essence of who you are. If you want more information on this concept a good book is The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. When you have discovered the pure essence of who you really are, then it’s easy to believe in yourself.

Next up, Do everything with intention. When you wake up in the morning what is your intention, I bet that most of you don’t even think about this. I know for a fact that I don’t open my eyes and set an intention for the day. Think what a difference it would make if we did. What if you woke up and decided today I am going to be happy. You have a purpose and a goal. When obstacles alight your path, you can make a decision to choose happiness, to change your perspective on what ever comes your way and not let it derail your happiness. Before you walk into that meeting set the intention that you are going to remain focused on the discussions being had in that room, and allow your brain and your mind to be present. Think how much more productive you that meeting would be. When you walk through the door at home after a long hard day, set and intention to be present with your family.

It’s easy to look at your life and see all the flaws. I have a job I don’t like, a house that needs improvements, or crazy relatives that I have to deal with, etc. With a change of perspective you can learn to really love your life, and when you’re ready, make the changes you desire. Instead of looking at the things that aren’t so great, look at all the things you’re grateful for. You may have crazy relatives, but you have the best friends you could ask for. Your house might need improvements, but you have a roof over your head and a bed to sleep in every night. You get the idea. Focus on the places in your life that are abundant and more abundance will follow.

The last thing on the list is to enjoy the journey. It’s important to understand that life is a journey. Nothing stays the same, we start at one point and we will end up at another. During this time we will have experiences, hardships, celebrations, and adventures. We will learn and grow, and our views will change as we age. There is always something new coming into our lives. We cannot control this and we do ourselves a disservice when we try. Embrace the journey, enjoy it. That’s when the magic happens.

Be Honest with Yourself About Your Goals

Are your goals materialistic in nature?  Are they expectations placed on you by family or society, or do they come from your heart? Will they make you happy? Are they attainable?

When I was fresh out of high school my goals were prescribed to me by society and family expectations.  My goals were to go to college (picking a realistic major), have a good business job that afforded me a comfortable living, and to start my own family. 

As I look back now, how shallow that all sounds.  I was completely neglecting the aspects of myself that made my heart sing.  I was neglecting my creative, loving, kind, sensitive side completely.  I was making my family happy, but where was I in all of this?

As I have walked this new spiritual path I have realized that my goals have completely changed. They are no longer material in nature, but soul satisfying.   I don’t really care anymore what society or my family want for me.  My goals are now based on healing my shadows, living a life that balances my internal peace with my external freedom of expression and love.  My goal is to be in the flow, and to use my intuition to guide me and show me where there is work to do.

I have discovered that caring about fitting in with the masses is like chasing your tail.  There’s always something else to want or to be, and you don’t really have a say. I happen to like pumpkin spiced lattes and romantic comedies even though they make me “basic” according to the folks on social media.

So I challenge you to take a look at what you’re striving to become or be.  Is it what makes your heart sing or is it an idea that someone else has decided is right for you? Embrace your authenticity and make your goals something that will grow you as a person.