Let it Be vs Let it Go

Let it be = Acceptance

Let it go = Choice

How can two letters change the way I view things so much?

When someone tells you to let something go, it requires a choice. It also infers that you are holding onto something that isn’t for you. There’s fault in this statement. I have seen value in something that doesn’t have value and for someone that has unhealed traumas might trigger guilt and shame.

When someone tells you to let something be, it requires a whole new process. It’s not really a choice, but an evaluation of what it is to you, and how it fits into to your life. It’s acceptance of what is, and if it’s in alignment with you. By accepting what it is, you remove the control and allow yourself and whatever it is to be what it is. This removes the shame and guilt, for the need to find fault in it.

This also allows you to be in acceptance of yourself. Here’s where I am, I might be somewhere different tomorrow, but this is who I am right now, and that is okay. We all grow and change our whole lives, and what we are in vibration with today, might not be what aligns tomorrow. If we accept and let it be what it is and your relationship to it, then there is room for growth.

I have to admit it was hard for communicate this in words as I felt it so strongly in my heart during my meditation this morning. I hope I did it justice.

Love Yourself

There is a golden rule in Christianity that says “Do unto others that you’d have done to you,” but society has focused on others, and forgotten the part where we must also show ourselves love.

We focus so much on being kind to others and treating them with respect, even if we aren’t treating ourselves that way.

We have to give ourselves the love and kindness we give others. If we aren’t giving it to ourselves first, others won’t either. Like attracts like, it’s one of the universal laws. We show people how to treat us, how to love us.

When there isn’t a balance between loving ourself and others codependency results. I need to prove my love and kindness to others and forsake myself so that I get love and kindness in return.

Instead I would challenge you to give yourself love and kindness first, because then you are practicing the golden rule as it was intended. I love myself therefore I treat others with love and respect.

What are 3 ways you can show yourself love today?

Believe

In meditation today I asked my guides what message was most import to deliver on my blog today and I was handed a list.

  • Believe in yourself
  • Do everything with intention
  • Love your life
  • Enjoy the journey

Easy right? Is it though? No for most of us. If you are anything like me, you find moments where this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Let’s unpack this to do list shall we.

What does is mean to believe in yourself? It means you have to stop listening to that voice in your head that lists all the reasons why you can’t have what you want (that second piece of chocolate), why you’ve failed every other time (so why even try again), and why you aren’t worthy of the dreams and goals you have for yourself. This will take more than a moment to get control of, but the first step is recognizing the voice. The second is to recognize you are observing the voice say those things, therefore, you are not this voice. You are an observer, this observer is your soul. The true essence of who you are. If you want more information on this concept a good book is The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. When you have discovered the pure essence of who you really are, then it’s easy to believe in yourself.

Next up, Do everything with intention. When you wake up in the morning what is your intention, I bet that most of you don’t even think about this. I know for a fact that I don’t open my eyes and set an intention for the day. Think what a difference it would make if we did. What if you woke up and decided today I am going to be happy. You have a purpose and a goal. When obstacles alight your path, you can make a decision to choose happiness, to change your perspective on what ever comes your way and not let it derail your happiness. Before you walk into that meeting set the intention that you are going to remain focused on the discussions being had in that room, and allow your brain and your mind to be present. Think how much more productive you that meeting would be. When you walk through the door at home after a long hard day, set and intention to be present with your family.

It’s easy to look at your life and see all the flaws. I have a job I don’t like, a house that needs improvements, or crazy relatives that I have to deal with, etc. With a change of perspective you can learn to really love your life, and when you’re ready, make the changes you desire. Instead of looking at the things that aren’t so great, look at all the things you’re grateful for. You may have crazy relatives, but you have the best friends you could ask for. Your house might need improvements, but you have a roof over your head and a bed to sleep in every night. You get the idea. Focus on the places in your life that are abundant and more abundance will follow.

The last thing on the list is to enjoy the journey. It’s important to understand that life is a journey. Nothing stays the same, we start at one point and we will end up at another. During this time we will have experiences, hardships, celebrations, and adventures. We will learn and grow, and our views will change as we age. There is always something new coming into our lives. We cannot control this and we do ourselves a disservice when we try. Embrace the journey, enjoy it. That’s when the magic happens.

Be Honest with Yourself About Your Goals

Are your goals materialistic in nature?  Are they expectations placed on you by family or society, or do they come from your heart? Will they make you happy? Are they attainable?

When I was fresh out of high school my goals were prescribed to me by society and family expectations.  My goals were to go to college (picking a realistic major), have a good business job that afforded me a comfortable living, and to start my own family. 

As I look back now, how shallow that all sounds.  I was completely neglecting the aspects of myself that made my heart sing.  I was neglecting my creative, loving, kind, sensitive side completely.  I was making my family happy, but where was I in all of this?

As I have walked this new spiritual path I have realized that my goals have completely changed. They are no longer material in nature, but soul satisfying.   I don’t really care anymore what society or my family want for me.  My goals are now based on healing my shadows, living a life that balances my internal peace with my external freedom of expression and love.  My goal is to be in the flow, and to use my intuition to guide me and show me where there is work to do.

I have discovered that caring about fitting in with the masses is like chasing your tail.  There’s always something else to want or to be, and you don’t really have a say. I happen to like pumpkin spiced lattes and romantic comedies even though they make me “basic” according to the folks on social media.

So I challenge you to take a look at what you’re striving to become or be.  Is it what makes your heart sing or is it an idea that someone else has decided is right for you? Embrace your authenticity and make your goals something that will grow you as a person.

Fall

It’s fall and leaves fall off the trees this time of year. The leaves are reabsorbed into by the earth bringing nutrients to the tree. One of the universal laws, the Law of Correspondence, says that patterns repeat throughout the universe. It’s no surprise then that we can take the example of the leaves falling from the tree in the autumn to how your emotions leave your body so that they can be transmuted into love to nourish your soul. You see, feelings are turned into emotions by your body. If you don’t allow yourself to feel your feelings your body traps these emotions causing damage to your body in the way of disease, depression, anxiety, fear, etc. If a tree didn’t lose the dead leaves in the fall, there would be no place for new leaves to form and the tree would be deprived of the additional nourishment. The dead leaves clog up the system.

Make it a point to check in with yourself everyday. Think about what the day brought you, feel into you body and notice any places that hold discomfort, feelings, emotions that you might be holding onto. A tense drive home in traffic, a crabby child, an unbalanced budget, or maybe a deadline at work. In what way did these things trigger you to feel negatively about yourself. Let go of these things before they clog up your system.

Listen

I take my dogs out first thing when I wake up in the morning. The weather was really chilly and I wanted to make this a really quick trip. There’s two routes that I normally go with them, this time I went the short one that doesn’t have anything to look at but a road and a strip mall. As I was standing there waiting on my plot hound to do his business with my teeth chattering I was being urged to walk toward the pond.

Now let me tell you this was the last thing I wanted to do. First it would add time to the walk and I was already frozen and not dressed for more cold. Second, that means open spaces for wind tow come and whip my face and hands. I debated for a moment and then thought to myself. There must be something that God wants me to see.

Sure enough, maybe a dozen steps past where I would have normally turned around I saw this…

This beauty was sitting right in between two pine trees in a long row. The colors were amazing, the picture was taken on my phone and doesn’t do it justice.

Listen to the whispers urging you to take a left instead of a right or take just a few more steps. When you have a feeling that you should phone a friend you haven’t spoken with in a long time. That moment when you turn the radio on and it reminds you of someone.

I have stopped considering these things coincidences. These are messages from God/Universe, or whatever higher power you subscribe to. When we listen to these messages our lives become richer and more abundant. When we trust this guidance, we are tapping into the essence of our creator. It lives in all of us. Whether spiritual or not, it’s here for us as long as we believe.

Trust

When I first began my spiritual journey, I trusted the messages that I was getting during my meditation. Then something happened, and I began to question everything.

Here’s what happened. I was so excited about all the experiences and things I was learning that I wanted to tell the people around me. That’s when the doubt started.

The people I was telling were firmly stuck in the matrix. They did not easily accept what I was learning as I had, and their doubt turned into me questioning what my intuition was telling me. The fear and doubt crept in, and my ego engaged. My intuition was now harder to hear, and distinguishing it from my intuition was difficult. It caused so much frustration that I felt more and more like giving up.

Even though it has been a “setback”, I think it was meant to happen this way, because in the process I am learning that we are all on a separate journey. We have different paths, different trauma, different approaches to life. My life lessons are different than my sisters and brothers, and more importantly, my parents have different life lessons. It puts a different perspective on parenting for sure, but that’s a whole separate post.

Listening to your own heart, how your own body reacts to your feelings. Noticing the things that trigger you and discovering where that particular trauma is buried for you is the most important, in my experience. All these things have lead me back to my intuition, my higher self, the holy spirit that is a part of us all. You have to look within, sit with it, and tell that monkey mind that you can trust heart.

Shadow Work – Follow the Feeling

While meditating this morning I was given a message, “Go out and live. Show the world your light.” I had a sense that spirit wanted me to go out and have fun. Or so I told myself. I instantly received feedback in my heart. I received a palpitation in my heart. This happens to me quite a bit, but this time I decided to follow it.

I sat with the feeling, and really focused. I tried to physically pin point it, once I found it, then I was able to decipher what the feeling was. To my surprise I discovered Fear > Unworthiness.

It brought me to a question. When did I begin telling myself that I was unworthy of letting go and having fun. Most importantly why?

Everyone deserves to have fun don’t they? By just following a feeling, I have the opportunity to reframe my perspective. To choose a different version of myself that leads with love, self love.

Being willing to explore our feelings as warning lights on the dashboard of life instead of potholes to avoid, we can heal and align ourselves with our truth. It take work, and we have to choose this path daily.

I’m grateful that I chose this path today.

Message from Spirit on People Pleasing

Stop living for other people. When you do this you are not authentic to yourself, to your truth. If you choose to make others happy with no regard for your own happiness and wellbeing, you are robbing them of a chance to manage their own truth. Soon no-one will be living their truth and everyone will be unhappy. If everyone is unhappy then the vibration of the planet will be lowered. Everyone will suffer. Every person on the planet has a mission to follow their heart.

On Pause

Things seem to be on pause the past few days. I know that there’s something on its way. The universe as told me so. I’ve been receiving numbers like crazy and tons of synchronicities.

It’s in these moments that karma is being sorted out and all I need to do is learn a lesson that has been presented to me. I feel that in my bones, and I even know what it is. I have to forgive myself for things I’ve been holding onto.

Some of those things I’ve been holding onto since childhood and some are newer. I either have to make amends or change my perspective. I know it’s in the past, I’ve already made amends to the people and gotten closure, but I’m holding onto the shame and guilt.

How do you forgive yourself for something you’ve not forgiven someone else for? I don’t think that you can. So I’ve discovered that my task has gotten bigger, not to mention I thought I had let it go.

The universe is telling me if I forgive and let go I will turn the wheel, this difficult cycle will end, yet here I am…stuck and all I want to do is cry. I want to forgive and move on, but my body won’t let it go. It’s really frustrating.