Tag: selfcare

Personal Boundaries

Piggy backing on my last post, I want to talk about healthy boundaries. The concept of personal boundaries is very important for healthy relationships. We have to be careful when we have unhealed wounds and try to set boundaries as we can place boundaries up around ourselves that are unhealthy and toxic. They can come from a place of trying to control someone else’s behavior towards you, because of your own fears and insecurities.

For example, If I am in a relationship with someone and I know that I am triggered by the topic of money, so I place a boundary up, that I will just not discuss this topic with my partner. This is a toxic boundary. You are putting it in place because you are triggered by it. It is put up to avoid your feelings. Instead of doing the hard work of really trying to understand what is behind that issue, healing the underlying cause for that trigger, and allowing yourself and your partner to be heard and understood, you remove that trigger being presented to you.

This will not solve the underlying issue, and you will find yourself faced with more and more topics/things that are off the table until there is nothing left to discuss. Healthy relationships thrive on communication and a good understanding of yourself. If there are emotions stirred around certain topics, it’s important to discover why. What are you telling yourself in that moment, that isn’t actually true. What negative self talk is going on when that topic comes up?

Take a look at the boundaries that you have in your relationships. Are they based in self love, protection, and a good understanding of your needs, or are you trying to control and avoid?

Spirit’s Guidance

Nothing can dim the light that shines from within ~ Maya Angelou

Wipe the slate clean everyday to achieve the highest vibration. Meditation is the key. Check your energy, your body, and determine what is being held onto and where you are meeting any kind of resistance. Everyday be committed to this process of cleansing and clearing your energy field. The results will be freeing. You will have more energy in your physical body as well as your light body.

Valuable clarity and insight will come as a result. Chaos is created in your mind, but you will be able to quiet this chaos by cleansing and clearing the feelings and emotions that are stuck. State what you are feeling aloud, or write about it in your journal. By getting it outside yourself into the 3D realty, you will start the process of moving this stuck energy. You will send it out to be released.

If you hold it inside it will just be picked up by your mind and feed your self limiting beliefs. It will hold you hostage in logic and fear. Get it out in whatever healthy way you can. Self expression is the best way to get it moving and purge it from your system.

You see, your body and your soul must work together. It doesn’t work if one takes control and bypasses the other. They have to work together.

Your soul will tell you how to fix what is trapped in your body, if only you would listen before there is too much damage inflicted upon it. Your physical form has a shelf life. Your soul is infinite.

Guidance from Spirit

This is a channeled message from one of my spirit guides.

“You are a divine being of light and love. As such you will always have a connection with spirit. Sometimes you will feel this stronger than other times.

You must watch your vibes and make sure that you are protecting your connection by staying grounded. Do something physical, mindful, or spiritual to tap into the energy of love and light.

You are a receiver and a transmitter of energy. If you are not tapped into the divine source energy, following your intuition then you are transmitting energy from your ego/logical mind. Full of fears and lower energies.

Be very mindful of what you consume, both physically and mentally, for it all has an impact on your vibration. And, because we are one, of the collective vibration By taking care of yourself, you create a healthier consciousness for all.”

Being the Miracle for Someone Else

Over the weekend I had a chance to hang out with my niece. I decided to take her to dinner and to play some games at Dave and Busters. We had so much fun! At dinner she got a really cool hypercolor straw that changed colors based on temperature. Which she thought was the coolest. Then I splurged and got the big card with a lot of coins on it, so we could play for a while together.

We were having a blast, until we came upon the big claw machine. She tried and tried to get a stuffed animal as big as her, but to no avail. So we took a break and played other games for a while. Then we went back to the claw machine. There was a line, and people were taking turns. Everything was going great, until my nieces turn. She dislodged the stuffy she wanted, and it would have only taken one more try and that stuffy would have been hers, but the next little girl was waiting. I know that my niece was going to be heartbroken, but everyone was taking turns so nicely. And, I could tell by looking at this little girl that she probably didn’t have these kinds of opportunities that often.

My niece is quite fortunate to be an only child of very loving and fun parents, not to mention some cool aunts and uncles. She has had so many fun experiences and has a room full of stuffies at home. She handled it like a champ even though I could tell how disappointed she was to hand the controls over to this little girl, she did it graciously but with a look of disappointment I knew that we would have to talk about.

That little girl won the prize and got that big stuffy, and showed no kindness to my niece even though it was she who set up that little miracle for her and handed over the controls. It broke my heart to watch that interaction, but it was then that I realized, sometimes you are the miracle for another person. You set someone up for a win, and there is a prize in that too.

In fact we walked over to the small crane machines close by and she won a small stuffed dog that she promptly named golden for it’s color. I paid for a little girl that had no money to play the claw next to us, and the boy on the other side won 3 stuffies at once and handed one to my niece and the little girl I had just paid for. He was so sweet, and my heart was happy.

My niece would end up coming home with a bag full of fun prizes including a stuffed sloth that was 1/2 her size, and some other fun things. She, by no means left empty handed. We had a great night, and we contributed to making that little girls experience one that she won’t forget for a while.

It’s important to look at the bigger picture. Which is sometimes hard to do in the moment, but if we can, we can affect others around us, and at the same time feed our soul by spreading love. Plus, when we do God’s work, we will be rewarded. Generosity and kindness will find you, if that is what you are putting out. So, I encourage you to be kind and generous, and teach your children to do the same. Be that miracle for someone else, no matter how small.

Channeled Message from Spirit- The Assistance will be Given

“You must not dally. Choose the path today. Your heart knows what you want. Meditate or pray on it. Ask for help seeing the direction clearly. Then ask for help from your angels to get your there. Ask for their guidance and assistance. Then, write it down and look at it every day. Staying idle just keeps you in the past instead of living- creating new experiences, living in the moment. You’ve got this.”

Stop Being Hard on Yourself When Someone Doesn’t Listen to Your Advice.

I was reminded again this morning that even though you are able to see the bigger picture of a situation, not everyone is, especially those that are deeply entrenched in it. Even though you may have already discovered the lesson in the book they are reading they might not be at the part of the book to understand what’s going on. Or, they might be reading multiple books and need to get to a certain chapter in a different book to understand what’s going on in this one. They have to live through the chapters to understand the lesson. That’s what life is all about. They won’t understand until they are ready to.

The purpose of telling you this is because I want to give you support if you see a family member or friend going through something really hard, and the answers are clear to you, but they just can’t see it, or act upon it to better their situation. Ask any parent if you need examples.

Be patient with them and with yourself. Our journeys are unique. They may have lots of similarities, but we are not here to put everyone in a box. When we can accept our own experience, and meet ourselves where we are at, to express ourselves authentically… then we can hold that space for the people we love to accept themselves and their experiences. To learn the lessons and grow in their own time.

This is a big lesson for me and I am working to embrace this more. I like to think I have lots of wisdom that I have learned in my 47 years, and I would love to help my family and friends to benefit from the things I have discovered. When my friends or family ask my advice and then don’t accept my guidance, or even hear my advice because of the emotions of the situation, I start telling myself that I must not have conveyed the message clearly or they don’t care. Really, it’s because they aren’t there yet. Eventually, they will get there, and when they do we can have a party, but it’s important to accept where they are.

It’s also a lesson for me to work on that negative self talk in my brain that says I failed them in some way. You cannot help someone that isn’t ready to be helped. If they are not in resonance with the advice, it will not sink in. Be consistent, and eventually they will hear it and realize it’s just what they needed and like me, wonder what why it didn’t click sooner.

It’s a journey friends, we are all on a different one. Embrace it! Enjoy it!

And stop being hard on yourself when someone doesn’t listen to your advice!

Lesson of the Slippery Socks

Today I had to bring my cat to the vet to be spayed. I work from home and was having to take a bit of time from my very busy day to do this. I started the day with just my slippers, and since it was -7 degrees this morning, I needed to put some socks on and wear my winter boots for this chore.

I was already running late as a client call went over the allotted time, and I rushed into my room to grab the socks. I chose a pair of white socks that are made of soft material. Nothing crazy, I have worn them several times with no issue. Something was nudging me to pick a different pair. I shrugged it off and kept moving as there was no time to waste. The cat was already in her carrier, I had already used the remote start to warm up the car so we weren’t going to freeze, and I just needed to get my butt out the door.

I put my jacket on and grabbed my purse and the cat, and started down the stairs in my stocking feet. The next thing I knew I was on my butt halfway down the staircase. When I calmed down I realized the cat was alright, I was indeed okay. Yes, a little worse for the wear, and my back will probably hurt for a few days as I could feel the strain in my muscles already, but truth-be-told it scared me more than it hurt me.

As I told the story to my sisters and a friend via text, the socks were the issue, as well as my mind moving 100mph before I descended the staircase. At lunch time I meditate, everyday. Today again, the socks came up, but this time I let the answer come to me through my heart space.

That nudge was my guardian angel trying to divert disaster and keep me safe. I just shrugged it off because I was too busy to take the time to acknowledge the divine suggestion. I thought I was good at seeing these things… Wow, how often do I do this?

I have begun to realize, for me it’s not that I don’t see them, it’s that I need to think about them before I listen. If there is not time to properly analyze the advice, then it’s 50/50. Sometimes I listen and sometimes I just shrug it off. It’s a trust thing for me. I always worry that there’s some dark energy or trickster around that has hijacked my conscious and is giving me bad information. I haven’t quite gotten to that space within where I can sense that energy, because, I just assume that I cannot trust myself to know the difference between good and bad energy.

The truth is I can, but it takes away my control, and that keeps me safe, or does it?

Just some food for thought…and a lesson to listen and trust those nudges. You could save yourself a few days with a heating pad and Tylenol. You’re also learning to trust that the universe really does have your best interest at heart, or at least your angels do.

The Truth Will Set You Free

This was a channeled message from 10-12-2022. My guides asked me to share it with you today. Exactly as I channeled it originally.

“Go gallantly into the darkness of your soul and bring the sword of truth as your protection. Truth will truly set you free. Truth is always found in your heart and soul. Your ego mind holds logic, but imagine that the library of logic has some bad book with bad logic and information in it. You’ve been using these books all your life, how could they be wrong? But, my child they are, for our ego throws out old books when new information is received like they do with science and new technology. The ego librarian doesn’t use science, he uses emotions, feelings, blockages to create the library you are getting your books from.

You see your soul doesn’t have a librarian, there is no need to “update” the collection because the books will never change. Your soul is your only true source of wisdom and knowledge about yourself. Your soul is hundreds of thousands of years old and a part of the Christ Consciousness. There is no fear that resides there only love. Open your heart and download the truth of who you are from this energetic library of self. Start getting rid out the books that don’t line up to your soul. “

In the Flow

Saturday was a great day. I could tell from the moment that I got up that I was right where I needed to be. My mind was clear and my energy was good, I even had tea instead of coffee first thing.

I didn’t have elaborate plans for the day, but decided to take things as they came following the little suggestions from spirit. I did a bit of house work, read another chapter in my new book, meditated, and journaled a bit. I invited my sister to go shopping and have lunch to use a gift card I had been given for Christmas from my aunt since she also had one too. She didn’t get back to me until lunch was upon us, but we decided to meet up later in the afternoon.

On my way to meet my sister I saw a license plate that had the numbers 222. That’s my number for the right place right time, or being in the flow. When I got to the store that the gift card was from, I waited in my car until she showed up, and I was so excited that she didn’t have my niece with her. Not that I don’t love spending time with my niece, but it meant that we could really just enjoy each other’s company and shop!

I found a great candle to spend my gift card on that just happened to be some of my favorite scents. Lavender, Bergamot, and Oak. I have never seen that combination before. When we went to the register to pay, my sister was a part of their email listing and got an additional discount! She had gone over the amount of the gift card, but this meant that she only had to pay 2 dollars extra. Score!

We decided to go the the shoe store that was next door. They were moving locations because of a lease war on their space, but all their clearance shoes were an additional 30% off. I found a great pair of Clarks boots to replace my old ones. They were a deal at $40.00, that’s more than half price, and I even got a pair of slides for my brother that lives with me. As I was standing in line, a new cashier came up and ushered me over to her. I could tell she had great energy, and we seemed to click. My brother’s shoes were on a sale rack, but turned out not to be on sale. The cashier said, “Don’t worry I will hook you up”, and voila I got them for 14.99, when they were originally $34.99. God put me in the right place at the right time, with the right cashier.

Things seem to just work out when you are in the flow, following your intuition, and bringing your authentic energy to people and places that need it.

That wasn’t the last of the deals for the day though. We decided to keep going, and visit some of our favorite clothing shops. I found a jacket that I loved and when I went to check out, I had a bonus waiting for me, another $20.00 off. I couldn’t believe my luck.

I just wanted to share with you this story, because it shows that when you follow your intuition and things are in alignment, things just work out. There will be help on your path, rewards, and messages. Not to mention that you can help other people as well. Who knows, my interaction with the cashier, and the fact that I was so grateful to her for giving me such a deep discount when she didn’t have to lifted her spirits too. It was a good interaction. In fact, all the interactions I had on Saturday were good ones. I even heard from someone that I haven’t talked to in a while.

Sometimes you just wake up in the flow, and other days it’s harder to get there, but generally, I have discovered that when you follow the gentle little nudges from God, good things happen. When you get that little nudge to hold a door open, to invite someone to coffee, or wear that shirt that you’ve been saving for the right moment, do it. I promise the results my be just what you’re looking for, but definitely what you need.