Tag: unconditional love

Mirroring

I have read so many articles and books in the past 3 years about people mirroring each other, but the truth is that your external life mirrors how you feel internally.

I was just journaling as I normally do at the end of my day, and I stumbled upon something very interesting. I was rambling on in my journal about feeling alone, and not having a “family” of my own to build traditions and a life. Of course, this time of year brings these issues to light for a lot of us.

Don’t get me wrong I have lovely friends and extended family that I enjoy so much, but I’m not married and I have a challenging relationship with my children. It leaves me on my own a lot especially during traditional family times.

I don’t need to wait until those things come into my life. I know they will when the time is right. I don’t have to see this alone time as a bad thing and I certainly don’t need to wait to start making plans for my life.

What I’m desiring externally is what I ‘m really craving from myself. I can give myself love, support, and a plan for the future. Things that a relationship and family of my own will fit into.

When all you really want at the end of the day is someone who loves you unconditionally, doesn’t judge you for your mistakes, and allows you to be authentically yourself; you can be that person for yourself. Be your own biggest cheerleader.

Love Yourself

There is a golden rule in Christianity that says “Do unto others that you’d have done to you,” but society has focused on others, and forgotten the part where we must also show ourselves love.

We focus so much on being kind to others and treating them with respect, even if we aren’t treating ourselves that way.

We have to give ourselves the love and kindness we give others. If we aren’t giving it to ourselves first, others won’t either. Like attracts like, it’s one of the universal laws. We show people how to treat us, how to love us.

When there isn’t a balance between loving ourself and others codependency results. I need to prove my love and kindness to others and forsake myself so that I get love and kindness in return.

Instead I would challenge you to give yourself love and kindness first, because then you are practicing the golden rule as it was intended. I love myself therefore I treat others with love and respect.

What are 3 ways you can show yourself love today?

Love

We are devoted to our dogs and they are devoted to us. We treat them like our babies, and spoil them. We love them unconditionally, because they love us without expectation. It’s easy for us to reciprocate the love our dog gives us. It’s a sure thing. Our dogs love us and we love them back, but it’s different with human relationships isn’t it. But why?

In human relationships there’s always a question of if I give love will it be reciprocated? Society has taught us that love is something that comes with time and checking all the boxes. That isn’t how love works, and that causes confusion and discord in our heart. We begin seeing love as earned, but love just is. What happens when we start seeing self love the same way? We have to earn it?

When does someone become lovable? When do we become lovable? This should never be a question. Love is inherent. We come to this life as an unconditional loving and lovable being. There should never be a question, or criteria for someone to “deserve love.” It’s our birthright. Who are we to decide who is lovable?

So, let’s all take a tip from our canine companions. Let’s see each other and ourselves through the lens of love. There is no criteria or expectation for love, it just is. Allow it to manifest in your life and treat all beings in a loving way.